Thoughts Can Kill Foreplay

What we think about ourselves and our bodies will show up in our intimate relationships. If your thoughts are creating feelings that drop you into the energy of neediness, insecurity & fear – you will be subconsciously distorting the sacred space that could be held open for connection and all the juicy goodness of being seen, felt & adored by a lover.

If you are a woman who is craving a deeper connection with a man -one that feels easy, effortless and endless – you must learn how to respect and honour the masculine.

Calling forward the divine feminine within us, and asking her to help us cultivate thoughts about our bodies, our partners and intimacy will help us to generate the feelings needed to begin to transform our lives…yup, even our sex lives will improve when we learn how to recondition and reprogram our mindset.

If we miss the way we once felt about our partner and long for a more exciting, intimate connection – consider how you ARE feeling today and what thoughts have generated those feelings.

Resentment, frustration, doubt, impatience … thats a mood killer, right?

But WAIT – Im not suggesting you just decide to think different thoughts about your partner.

That’s important.

But its not as important as identifying what thoughts you have about yourself that need to be reconciled. What would you have to think & feel in order to overflow with love, joy and the belief that you are worthy to receive the connection and intimacy you crave.

All love begins with self love.

I am beautiful.

I am full of love.
I am at peace within myself.
I am whole.
I am complete.
I am worthy of love.
I am open to connection, willing to give freely and ready to receive abundantly.

 Ever had a dream your partner cheated on you?

Often, we do a good job of looking unshakable, we can even manage to convince ourselves that we don’t “give a shit” about most things – but our fears are often revealed to us when we are unguarded. Today I was asked “do you think dreams mean anything?”

The answer “definitely – if you decide that they do”

 Examining our fears in the light of day often disempowers them – left unchecked they erode us ..and make us act a little crazy.

Here is how it goes – we dream out partner cheats on us, we wake up and think that our dream is a sign of terrible things to come. That thought fills us with fear. Our fear makes us defensive. In a defensive state we recoil from our partner and instead of starting the day by reaching out lovingly and waking up to each other – you spit venom at him. You question him and accuse him of being capable of cheating on you. You are mad and the disconnect you feel makes you anxious.

Can you see whats happening? Your thoughts are creating what you fear.

When we understand the power of our thoughts – we begin to realise that we can decide to put an end to the negative looping in our minds. We can decide that we want to cultivate thoughts that make us feel good – so that our actions reflect that.

Caroline Myss articulates it beautifully “the power to make choices is the dynamic that converts our spirits into matter, our words into flesh”

Im reminded of years gone by, when I would lay in the fetal position on my bed, staring at the wall thinking “fuck this shit”. This shit – was my life. That was my mantra on repeat. Life was replying. Every day was a deeper descent into my own suffering.

The story of my awakening began with the conscious choice to escape the negative loop within my mind.

It begins with one thought.

Bring consciousness to the thoughts that are creating your reality.

Tell me, what thought would turn your day around today?