How to light the fire of your own desires today

innerwork manifest mindset relationships Nov 02, 2022
Humble brag ... not only about the fact that I have married this delicious human BUT that I manifested a relationship that gives me a brave space to be fully expressed.
 
When I first met Steve, I was captivated by his self confidence. His energy is steady. His mind is completely open. His friendship was the refuge I took when I felt the world was judgemental, critical and down right dark.
 
A decade on, I still maintain that Steve is the poster boy for self confidence. Don't get it twisted - Im not for a moment saying he is arrogant or lead by ego.
 
That couldn't be further from the truth actually - he is the kindest spirit I have ever met.
 
He is a man that undoubtedly knows who he is, what is meaningful to him, and how to live a life that lights him up from the inside out. His boundaries are clearly defined and his sense of self is generated and maintained effortlessly from within.

Why am I having a humble brag here today? Because I have learned SO MUCH from him & this morning, once again, he demonstrated how and why he continues to be the happiest human I know (closely followed by our son - whose tantrums knock him off first place)

Steve has Wednesday mornings free from work and at 6am today he went mountain bike riding.
Sounds simple.
And it is.
And thats the point.

Confidence begins by getting really curious about who we are, what we like, what lights us up and then doing those things.

Understanding what we like, what our preferences are, what we need and what we desire and then MAKING OUR LIFE A REFLECTION OF THAT.

There were a million other things he could have done this morning - but the priority was the mountain bike riding, and it was non negotiable for him. He lit his own fire because he declares himself worthy of it.

So.. I thought Id start a conversation here about lighting our own fire here today too...
 
What lights your fire? What is it that makes you burn bright in your own unique, powerful way?
 
Im really asking you this - what were you doing the last time you truly felt like you were the fullest expression of yourself? Completely alive and in the moment and just on fire?
 
Maybe the answer to those questions was easy for you to find and you are smiling to yourself right now, reliving the moment.
 
Or, you might be sitting back and wondering “what on earth is she talking about?!” because maybe you havent ever actually felt that way.

OR maybe like me - the things that once lit you up no longer create the same spark and you need to explore yourself in new contexts to reconnect with what you actually like (because something about having a baby and then working from home and then being in lockdown for what felt like forever has kinda dulled my shine a little if Im being honest....what do I even LIKE anymore!??)
 
Being present in the moments that rejuvenate us and light us up are really important insights into who we are, and necessary if we are going to live sustainably happy lives and create and cause all that we are capable of.
 
Lets explore together & discover what it is that lights your own fire…
 
Years ago, I completed a simple reflective exercise as part of the work I was doing to understand how to teach people to live more successfully, authentically and joyfully & found it to be powerful in its simplicity…
 
Right now, take a moment to think about what makes you feel truly alive & write it down….
 
When was the last time you did that activity…..
 
Based on the type of activity that youve identified as one that “lights your fire” what does this tell you about who you really are…
 
What areas of your life give you the opportunity to experience yourself in this way…
 
 
 
What areas of your life are in contrast to you having the opportunity to experience yourself in this way…
 
 
When you look at what you have written - its powerful to ask yourself how much of your day to day life actually provides you with opportunities to feel lit up from within.
 
Reminder - this is NOT supposed to spark judgement within you. Dont fall down a rabbit hole of self deprecation.
 
My hope is that I can encourage you to take a moment to start to see connections between your thoughts and behaviours so that you can step FULLY INTO THE PERSONAL POWER that you have to be curate experiences that light you up from the inside out.

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